|OPEN UP THE APERTURE TO 500 MILES, C!|
|The red "No" of relationship death.|
The other issue that is going to weigh heavily on C is that after he goes through a period of casual sex with strangers, his expectations for what he gets out of a relationship are going to be high. If you hang out with B for a while you can see what pro-level girlfriending looks like, and its massively involved. Cold hard facts start to set in: Women may want superficial relationships because that may be all they have time for.
Because below is the initial understanding C has, that we all had when we got divorced, because media shoved it down our throats as reasonable:
"I thought our story was epic, you know. You and me. Spanning years and continents. Lives ruined, bloodshed. You know, epic!"Can you be post-divorce and still want epic or has that nerve been cauterized? Maybe you can. But epic isn't going to be found on a dating website. Epic is the people you're on a journey with already. Learn how to date them, I tell myself. Buy some damn plane tickets, get over all the random baggage in your way with the people around you! Clearly this is more advice for me than for C, but here is what I've learned: you can break all the rules and you'll be happier for it. I guess that's something every hacker should already know?